Before You Talk

1. It's Never Too Early To Talk
When should parents start talking about "tough issues," like sex, violence, drugs and respect? Experts, say the earlier the better. Because, the reality is that if you don't, someone else will. The only way you can ensure that your child knows what YOU want them to about these issues is to tell them yourself. Starting to talk when your kids are in elementary school means catching them when they really want your guidance (even if they haven't said so!), especially about life's "tough issues."

2. The Little Talks Really Add Up
Sack "the big talk" Focus on "the little talks," and the listening time spent along the way. Try to find everyday opportunities to talk—informal times like when you're in the car, or before your child goes to sleep at night, or while you and your kids are watching TV. They'll be more encouraged to tell you what's going on in their lives—including the tough stuff like sex, violence, drugs and respect. These topics hard to talk about (you're not alone!) But the little talks you have with your kids are going to be a lot easier than one of those grueling "big talk" marathons—and better for your kids too.

3. Your Family Values
Before you dive in, ask your self a few questions. How do you feel about these issues and what do you want your kids to know? What are YOUR "family's values," your religious beliefs, your learned lessons in life? What did you learn from your parents that you want to pass along to your child?

Once that's done, talking with your kids about your own beliefs regarding sex, violence, drugs and respect will be a lot easier. Your values give you a framework, so your kids can better understand why you feel strongly about all sorts of things: like treating others with respect, avoiding drugs, building healthy relationships, and not engaging in violence.

You and your kids can use your family's values to talk about these issues as they grow, establishing ground rules that you can all live by—together.

Start Early
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Create an Open Environment
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Start Conversations With

Your Child
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Trust Yourself
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Talk About Your Values
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Be Honest
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Be Patient
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Listen Carefully and Watch

Closely
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Use Everyday Opportunities

To Talk
10.Talk About It Again and Again