I'll get in trouble if I ask about __________!
a. a slang word I just heard
b. cigarettes
c. body piercing
d. how much oatmeal can fit in my underpants

You might be afraid to ask about things you're not supposed to do. But just because you want to know about these things, it doesn't mean you want to do them. Your parents know that asking and doing are two different things. All your question means is that you want to understand things better. Your mom and dad want you to understand too, so go ahead and ask.

It's embarrassing to ask about __________!
a. having a crush on someone
b. a name I was called in school
c. a change in my body
d. the hairy wart on Aunt Miriam's nose


Some questions can be embarrassing to ask, especially if they have to do with your own body or other private things. But don't let that stop you! These questions are important, and you'll be surprised how quickly that embarrassed feeling goes away when you're talking with someone you trust, like your parents. It's worth being a little embarrassed in order to find out what you want to know, so give it a try.

________________ will think I'm stupid.
a. My school friends
b. My best friend
c. My teacher
d. My ferret


Well, at least your parents won't. They know the opposite is true—what's dumb is not asking a question. Otherwise, how are you going to learn? Even if other kids make fun of you, remember—inside they're probably glad you asked the question, since they didn't know the answer either. And they weren't smart enough to ask for themselves.


The next time you're wondering whether to ask a question, keep this in mind:
If a question is important to you, it's a good question.
And that means it's OK to ask. See the next page for the Talk Contract—so you
and your parents can lay down some ground rules before the questions start flying.

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